...respected my husband.

It's hard enough for a father to see his daughter as a married woman let alone some man's wife. However, fathers have to understand that their daughters will grow up and may marry.

Fathers need to be supportive of their daughter's husband and marriage. A father who does not respect his daughter's husband will lose her respect.

...treated me fairly.

Many times I have noticed my father hasn't treated me the same as my siblings. He yelled at me more, expected more from me and pretty much thinks of me as some kind of failure or disappointment. This could be my imagination, but the older I get, the more I realize that this is actually reality.

Parents should not have favourites when it comes to their children. Having favourites only creates jealousy which leads to animosity amongst siblings.

...and I could see eye to eye.

It's difficult to see thing from the same viewpoint as another, especially your father. Many times I have tried to see things from my father's point of view, but he has always been too stubborn to return the favour. As a result, we are usually clashing on many matters.

Seeing eye to eye does not mean giving in, it means trying to see things from the other's point of view. A parent that does not practice that, will find themselves usually at odds with their child.

...respect me.

As a grown woman, with a husband and children and a home of her own, I realize I still have not earned my father's respect. I realize that this is something that I might never get, and I would just have to accept that and move on.

When parents respect their children, they open up doors to a new type of relationship. A relationship based on maturity and reciprocity.

...would give me a chance.

Many times I would try to argue a point or explain my position, and because my father had already made up his mind, there was no point trying to convince him otherwise.

It's incredibly frustrating when a child is trying to speak and a parent won't listen or assumes they already know. A child will not open up to a parent as a result.

Parents need to take the time to not only hear their children but to listen to them.

...didn't have to work so hard.

I appreciate all my dad's hardwork and his committment to his family, but I wish he didn't have to work so hard.

Time, once lost, you never get it back.

...told me the wishes he had for me.

Although it's difficult to discuss feelings, I wish my dad had told me some of the wishes he had for me.

Fathers risk disappointment when they wait until their children are grown to let them know their expectations.

...wasn't so quick to judge.

So many times, my father has acted on what he saw or heard instead taking the time to find out, to get to know.

He might have been surprised and found something he liked, admired or respected.

...laughed with me more.

Although it did not happen often, I enjoyed a good laugh with my father.

Laughing tells a child, everything will be alright.

...supported me with his words.

'You can do it', 'we'll get through this', 'I believe in you', 'don't give up'.

The right words make all the difference in the world.

...realized he was the first man in my life.

Being the first man in my life, the relationship I have with my father sets the precedence for all intimate relationships I have with men.

An absentee father of a young girl will cause her in later years to try and fill that void, in her relationships with men, even if that man is abusive.

A happy and loved young girl, will look for those same qualities in a man when she is looking for a husband.