...could act more like a daddy.

My father's idea of being a 'dad' was going to work, putting a roof over our heads and bringing money home so we could have food to eat. Although these things are extremely important, being a 'dad' encompasses so much more. Like laughing with your children, asking them how things are going, finding out what they are into, what their interests are. My father had and has no interest in any of those things when it comes to me.

Unfortunately, when it comes to my father, there is nothing I can do to change him, but I can definitely encourage my husband to not make the same mistakes with our children.

...could let go the past.

My dad insists on dwelling on the past. I refuse to do so and therefore we are at an impasse. This attitude has not only affected my relationship with him, it has also affected his relationship with my children, his grandchildren.

When parents are not willing to let go of the past, they are doing real damage to not only themselves but to their loved ones. Life is too short to be bitter and angry. Just enjoy the time you have with your children today, because you never know what tomorrow will bring.