..would treat me as as adult

A parent's inability to see their child as an adult can impair the relationship dynamic, and at times be detrimental to the progression of their relationship.

Albeit difficult, it is important for fathers to realize that their daughters do grow up and become adults. A grown woman with a home and family of her own, does not need to be dictated to and chastised like she is a child.

...wasn't so uptight.

I wish my dad would learn to loosen up a bit. Not take life so seriously. I understand that there are serious situations, but when you do not take the time to laugh, you become miserable.

I can count on my one hand the number of times I've laughed with my dad. To share a good laugh with my father is only something I can dream of.

...could act more like a daddy.

My father's idea of being a 'dad' was going to work, putting a roof over our heads and bringing money home so we could have food to eat. Although these things are extremely important, being a 'dad' encompasses so much more. Like laughing with your children, asking them how things are going, finding out what they are into, what their interests are. My father had and has no interest in any of those things when it comes to me.

Unfortunately, when it comes to my father, there is nothing I can do to change him, but I can definitely encourage my husband to not make the same mistakes with our children.

...could let go the past.

My dad insists on dwelling on the past. I refuse to do so and therefore we are at an impasse. This attitude has not only affected my relationship with him, it has also affected his relationship with my children, his grandchildren.

When parents are not willing to let go of the past, they are doing real damage to not only themselves but to their loved ones. Life is too short to be bitter and angry. Just enjoy the time you have with your children today, because you never know what tomorrow will bring.

...didn't sweat the small stuff.

My father always made a big deal out of everything. He didn't know how to take anything lightly or have an 'oh well' attitude towards things.

Learning to not sweat the small stuff is what makes life fun and funny. Parents need to be relaxed at times when interacting with their children.

...took the time to know me.

I wish my dad took the time to know me. My interests, hobbies, likes and dislikes. He would see that I am so much more than what he assumes I am. Unfortunately, he chooses to just go on what he thinks he knows. That's really too bad.

By not taking the time to know their children, fathers lose out on the opportunities for a wonderful friendship with their children.

...respected my children.

My father doesn't realize how short life is. Unfortunately he thinks when interacting with my children, he can speak to them and treat them the same way he did with me.

Grandparents have to realize how important their role is and take it seriously. Children remember things and grandparents should make sure they leave lasting, happy memories.