...realized he was the first man in my life.

Being the first man in my life, the relationship I have with my father sets the precedence for all intimate relationships I have with men.

An absentee father of a young girl will cause her in later years to try and fill that void, in her relationships with men, even if that man is abusive.

A happy and loved young girl, will look for those same qualities in a man when she is looking for a husband.